Fat-shaming, taken too far

by guest author, Jenny Timms

Fat-shaming. I hadn’t even heard that term until I read this article, and now I’m even more disgusted by the political correctness that seems to permeate our nation, causing us to be afraid to offer advice or criticism. In fact, most Americans are afraid to tout success for fear of being seen as condescending or patronizing. It’s a shame and sad indication of just how far our country has fallen from the proud nation we once were.

Kids are told that winning or losing doesn’t matter. Guess what? It does. The thrill and feeling of accomplishment that accompanies winning can be a valuable lesson to a child.  Children need to know that hard work, determination, and sacrifice pay off and that sometimes the “good guy” does finish first. On the opposite side of this coin is the need for children to learn how to lose. I’ve seen too many young adults possess a sense of entitlement simply because he or she never had to suffer a loss or feel the disappointment of not getting his or her way. Children need to be taught how to shake the winners hand with grace and dignity and to work harder for a victory.

Maria Kang knows the value of hard work. She’s a business owner, mother and fitness model. She posted post-baby photos on her Facebook page, hoping to inspire women to become healthy and active. Her intention was not to hurt anyone’s feelings, make anyone feel bad about themselves, or poke fun at obesity. In fact, her goal was to show that being a busy mom is not an excuse for being overweight. She wanted to point out that if she can be healthy with 3 young sons, it is possible for others to be healthy. Her intentions were taken grossly out of context and more than a year later, she was publically attacked for her views and her photos.

Isn’t it hypocritical that the same groups Kang is accused of offending are now attacking her for suggesting that fat people get off the couch and move? Who is the real bully here?  If Kang had posted pictures of obese individuals and made comments about their obvious gluttony, then I would say she was a bully. She didn’t target an individual.  What she did was post a picture of herself and 3 sons with the headline, “What’s Your Excuse?” She did this to promote her business, inspire others, and maybe even celebrate her success.

As well she should have!

This lady has worked hard to look good, feel good, and be healthy. Instead of criticizing her, maybe anyone offended by her pictures or statements should learn from her.

Maria Kang should not be made to feel guilty because she is proud of how hard she worked after having 3 children in 3 years.  She should not have to apologize for trying to inspire others, encourage a healthy lifestyle, or promote her business. She is not the bully here. She did nothing wrong. Bullying is a real problem in this country, but sometimes we mistaken who the real bully is.